Whatever you’re not changing, you’re choosing. Just let that sink in for a moment.
I imagine that it’s a little uncomfortable? It was for me when I realised this. My first instinct was to justify why that statement wasn’t true. It’s not my fault, it’s because (insert your own reason here!). But here’s the thing, when we justify and make those excuses about why we are stuck, that’s the thing that keeps us stuck. We are choosing to hide behind those reasons and excuses and that stops us seeing possibilities for change.
I used to think I was stuck.
- stuck in a shitty relationship
- stuck feeling unhappy
- stuck financially
- stuck in a job that was damaging my body (loved the work, my body hated the pain!)
- stuck in the same old patterns that I ran over and over getting the same old results
I couldn’t see that there were any other options. Looking back with hindsight (it’s a grand old thing!) I missed so many opportunities to change. I’m not just talking about my situation……I’m talking about myself!
When I finally saw that I could do something different through my NLP training, my whole world changed. Not that everything is perfect now, there are still things I continue to work on but I have
- better relationships – my husband to be and I are so happy together.
- stronger friendships – definitely less people in my social circle but, my god, they are good ones
- a career I’m totally passionate about, that’s kind to my body and is completely fulfilling
- a life I’m proud of and that makes me happy
- more financial freedom than ever
When we truly embrace the idea that we can make changes to have the life we really want its incredibly empowering . But it does mean that we are totally responsible for where we are and what’s happening in our lives. We can’t wear the victim T-Shirt any more, we can’t blame other people, we can’t blame situations, we can’t make excuses any more. We have to stop hiding. It’s a little scary at first because we have to move out of our comfort zone but it’s amazing how quickly changes can become our new normal.
What are you choosing today?